Why you need to ask: how can I make this easier for myself?

Why you need to ask: how can I make this easier for myself?

Some people (including me) are people pleasers, perfectionists and grafters. We are inclined to put the needs of our work, and others, above our own and to consider ‘taking it easy’ to be synonymous with ‘lazy’ (which, in its turn is taken as a huge insult). We are not naturally inclined to ask the question […]

What we prioritise is our choice

What we prioritise is our choice

I spent years of my life being angry and resentful at not having any time off/being able to do any of the things I wanted to do/having to work all the time. All that time I hadn’t realised something that now seems so obvious: what we prioritise is our choice. Due to this realisation I […]

Notes from a recovering perfectionist

Notes from a recovering perfectionist

My name’s Ellen, and I’m a recovering perfectionist. Not so long ago – and still sometimes now (because nobody’s perfect even at imperfection) – I’d hang my head in shame and feel a big knot in my stomach every time I did something wrong, or was less than perfect. I’d beat myself up for not […]

On goal setting. Make sure they’re truly your own.

On goal setting. Make sure they’re truly your own.

I remember a teacher once saying, during a yoga class, “something in you shifts once you can balance your weight in your hands”. And a fellow student on my yoga teacher training course confirmed learning to do a handstand feels amazing, like you can do anything. I’m sure this is true. I also know that […]