Life-changing decisions and embracing change

I’m in the habit of making life-changing decisions at the moment. Which, for someone who finds it hard when dinner plans change last minute, is quite a big thing. I blame Buddhist monk Jack Kornfield and a spate of other inspiring speakers whose quotes I saw on Pinterest.

Jack Kornfield Quote that inspired my life-changing decisions: "The trouble is, you think you have time"

Quote from ‘Buddha’s Little Instruction Book’ – Jack Kornfield

Cheery… It’s true, though, we do think we have time. We think we have time to do that big project later when everything feels right. We’ll have time to work towards our dreams next year, then next, then next. The thing is, there’s never a right time to make life-changing decisions, there’s only now.

My life-changing decisions

A gradual build up of frustration with my life and a feeling of being stuck in one giant rut has led to my life-changing decisions. It took six years to get here, from graduating University to realising I’m not living the life I want. Finally, after reading who knows how many motivational quotes I decided it was time to get off Pinterest (not really, I love Pinterest) and change my life.

Here are the life-changing decisions I’ve made so far in order of appearance:

  1. I’m starting a Yoga Teacher Training course in January.
  2. I quit my nice, secure office job.
  3. I plan to move cities next year.
  4. I’m actively pursuing my dream.

The plan to embrace change

Like I said, I’m not known for being a fan of change. My mum and boyfriend can back me up on that. Yet here I am sat on the sofa in my PJs at 10am on a Thursday writing about all these ways I’m going to change my life. But, as Benyamin Elias says in his post‘Change is an Acquired Taste’ on The Change Blog :

“Start small”

Or, one thing at a time, as my boyfriend is in the habit of telling me when I’m freaking out trying to plan every single change in my life all the way through to the end of next year.

A happiness project

A few months ago I was away on a trip and picked up Gretchen Rubin’s book ‘The Happiness Project’. Sometimes a book just comes into your life at the right time, this was that book for me. It charts Gretchen’s journey over the course of a year as she tries to make herself happier.

Disclaimer I, like Gretchen when she did her project, am not massively unhappy. But, I’m not as happy as I could be. So for me happiness is a big part of my life-changing plans. This might sound selfish, but as Gretchen realised in her Second Splendid Truth of Happiness (there are eight in total, read them all here):

“One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy; one of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.”

As someone who loves structure and planning I’ve decided if I can’t plan all the changes in my life I could start by planning a happiness project. I’ll be starting this soon and will, of course, blog my journey.

So that’s me and my life-changing decisions. Let me know if you’ve recently changed your life, or are doing a similar thing now. I would love to hear your tips and advice!

About ecarr

Ellen is a writer and theatre maker who has just taken the freelance plunge after too many years of 9-5 office life. She is a yoga teacher in training and passionate about pursuing your dreams.

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