Be a blossom tree, is the title of a lovely post by Sara Tasker on her blog Me & Orla. It’s a post about a worry she’s had recently, a worry that goes like this:
“what if I’m a blossom tree? […] Destined to bloom brightly then fade in a flurry of pink confetti”.
This got me thinking about fears we all share of not being enough. It also made me realise how important it is to embrace the rhythm of life, and realise it’s okay to not be resplendent all the time.
A fear of reaching your peak
We all worry about reaching our peak and fading away. It’s not just about work, it’s about beauty and physical fitness and all things. Evolutionarily speaking this way of thinking probably served a good purpose. In terms of reproducing there would have been a very clear peak age. Now we have modern medicine that does so much on the maternity front – a great advantage to living in the society we do. A disadvantage, however, is the standards of beauty and work we set ourselves.
Think of all the creams and lotions that exist to help women stay younger for longer. If there were lip balms that helped you work longer, and hand creams that meant you could type faster I bet people would be buying them up too. We want more, all the time. It’s a fast paced, consumer driven world we live in where we simply don’t have the time to stop and consider that we are enough. That what we have inside ourselves, and on the outside too, is enough.
In Sara’s post, what she realises about the blossom is that part of its beauty is the fact it isn’t there all year long.
“I think my favourite thing about the blossom might be its brevity; the watching and waiting as winter fades, the glorious riot of colour after so long in the gloom.”
The rhythm of life
I’ve been thinking a lot about rhythms in our lives lately. As I try to slow my life down I’m beginning to notice my personal rhythms more. I noticed my day has two starting points; there’s breakfast and the work that follows, there’s a natural lull around lunchtime and after that another starting point – another chance to check in with the agenda and tasks for the day.
I’m also taking more time to notice the seasons, helped by the fact I’m taking daily walks. I now take a moment to photograph the beautiful flower, or blossom tree I see – or simply look at it for a bit. I’m seeing the changes happening around me, as we slip from winter to spring and hints of summer start to creep in. In the reading for my yoga teacher training I’ve been learning about Ayurvedic theories, which are so linked to the rhythms of the year; the week; the day.
It’s okay to not be your best all the time
Nature knows that permanence is an illusion at best, and destructive at worst. In the natural world there are cycles, and what Sara’s post so beautifully realises is that it’s okay to be like this ourselves. To have a slower, more internal, or dormant period is good because after winter comes the spring and with it the beautiful blossoms showing us life is still there, always was there, and now its time to create.
“And in the end I think, it’s ok to not be spectacular every single day. It’s fine to be practical and ordinary, strong and steady, dropping acorns in Autumn with no fanfare or glory. & if spring comes around, it’s ok to burst into activity, too”
I really recommend reading Sara’s full post Be a Blossom Tree, it’s lovely. Let me know what you think in the comments below.